All emotions carry with them a teaching and an opportunity to deep down in our been and meet it intimately.
Unluckly, since we are young, we are thaught to judge our emotions evaluating them. We have to be very aware about which one we are allow to show up and feel and which one we have to sopress and push away. Tomake space for them or not.
In many personal growth workshops people is invited to madly search for happyness, joy and positive thought.
In my personal experience, the big change happened when I started to accept and to observe from the outside what was happening to me.
I stop, I breath and I give space for the slowly coming emotions or for the overwhelming ones.
I don’t identify myself with them, because it’s not me but something that it is happening to me. And I embrace them.
There is no judgment but acceptance. I wait for the deep insight they will bring to me…and the I let them go.
Every emotion shows up in a different part of our body. It’s very interesting to see how it could be mapped. It’s also very interesting how its painful signals are always connected with emotions we didn’t dare to feel.
Taylor write very simply about our relationship with the sadness and the value of this emotion.
Sitting with Our Sadness
By Madyson Taylor
Sitting with our sadness takes the courage to believe that we can bear the pain and we will come out the other side.
The last thing most of us want to hear or think about when we are dealing with profound feelings of sadness is that deep learning can be found in this place.
In the midst of our pain, we often feel picked on by life, or overwhelmed by the enormity of some loss, or simply too exhausted to try and examine the situation.
We may feel far too disappointed and angry to look for anything resembling a bright side to our suffering. Still, somewhere in our hearts, we know that we will eventually emerge from the depths into the light of greater awareness. Remembering this truth, no matter how elusive it seems, can help.
The other thing we often would rather not hear when we are dealing with intense sadness is that the only way out of it is through it. Sitting with our sadness takes the courage to believe that we can bear the pain and the faith that we will come out the other side.
With courage, we can allow ourselves to cycle through the grieving process with full inner permission to experience it.
This is a powerful teaching that sadness has to offer us–the ability to surrender and the acceptance of change go hand in hand.
Another teaching of sadness is compassion for others who are in pain, because it is only in feeling our own pain that we can really understand and allow for someone else’s. Sadness is something we all go through, and we all learn from it and are deepened by its presence in our lives.
While our own individual experiences of sadness carry with them unique lessons, the implications of what we learn are universal.
The wisdom we gain from going through the process of feeling loss, heartbreak, or deep disappointment gives us access to the heart of humanity.